Hi, My name is Melissa and I lost my mom Thelma J. Pate to a rare form of lymphoma on December 23rd, 2007. Have you ever lost a parent or loved one to cancer? Are one of your parents or loved ones going through the experience of cancer now? Then this blog is for you. Feel free to allow this blog to be a safe haven of communication for you.
Monday, February 29, 2016
Strong independent woman
So my dad came to visit not too long ago, the first thing he noticed were my encouraging sticky notes I have posted on my bathroom mirror. He laughed a bit and said " this is smart and you do know that everything is going to be ok, right?" I smiled back and said "yeah I know." Yesterday while we were on the phone he says to me "I just realized that you lost your best friend when mom died." I paused for a second to digest what was said and thought to myself he noticed me. He noticed that even with him and my brother standing in the room I still felt alone. He then said "I get it now and I owe you some attention." I always saw myself as a daddy's girls when I was younger but as I got older I connected with my mother more, because I was becoming a woman just like her. And the same goes for my brother, because he was becoming a man just like my dad. The difference was my go to person for advice and understanding was gone. My dad did his best and he loved me unconditionally which was just as important, but it wasn't the same. Luckily for me my mom showed me through her actions when I was growing up how to be a strong independent woman.
Friday, February 26, 2016
Vision board : Goals inspire above the pain
END note: Do you have God in your life?
Thursday, February 25, 2016
Note to self: Encouraging thoughts
- I am determined to have piece of mind
- I have to learn to self-soothe (self-encourage)
- You are braver than you think
- You are stronger than you seem
- You are smarter than you know
- You will never be able to deal with it, if you don't face it
- The enemy has been trying to kill your ability and is using pain to distract you
- The joy of the Lord is my strength and the strength of the Lord is my joy
- Positivity is the key
- I have to learn to self-soothe (self-encourage)
- You are braver than you think
- You are stronger than you seem
- You are smarter than you know
- You will never be able to deal with it, if you don't face it
- The enemy has been trying to kill your ability and is using pain to distract you
- The joy of the Lord is my strength and the strength of the Lord is my joy
- Positivity is the key
Monday, February 22, 2016
My Story: part 1
My mother has always been the sweetest, most caring, most loving person I have ever known. Anyone that has ever had the privilege to meet her will tell you how much of an angel she was here on earth. This story dates back to my middle school years. A transitional phase in my life where things began to become real. Boyfriends and girlfriends became real, school work and passing test became real, true friends and fake friends became real, and even life and death became real. At that tender young age you don't even notice how God is preparing you. It was in middle school a good friend of mine loss her mother. Her mother passed while giving birth, and I remember then feeling so overwhelming hurt for my friend and her family. We were so young and my first thoughts were I would never be able to live without my mother. As we left school early to show our support for the family, my mother comforted me and had to explain to me that life happens and God makes no mistakes. Who would have thought that year's later I would have to apply this given knowledge to my life...
Tuesday, February 16, 2016
The Purpose
The Purpose for this blog is to start an open forum for kids and adults that are experiencing or have lost a parent or loved one to cancer. A place where we can communicate and link together. Unfortunately this disease is becoming more and more common and sometimes we just need someone to talk too or someone who can relate.
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